There is no question that once you become a mother, your life completely changes. Every single aspect changes, and it’s never the same, everything is much more calculated, and planned. But, despite all of these adjustments, you wouldn’t have it any other way. “Pre-baby” life is great, but your appreciation for life is transformed as a mother. Every smile, tear, grin, or sassy attitude from your little one is truly a gift from God. Every time your baby reaches a milestone, you want to shout it from the rooftops. Yes, you have become that mother and you should be so proud of you and your child.
That being said, many women get caught up in being “just a mom” and forgetting that before you were a mother you were a woman with a life of her own! It is so important that you don’t lose sight of your “pre-baby” self because you’re a mother now. You can still be just as driven, just as passionate, and just as focused on your career, life, or desires.
You are allowed to still set personal goals and do what you need to do to reach them. It will make you a healthier and happier person and it will show your son or daughter that having a family doesn’t mean that you have to give up on your personal life.As mother’s we’ve all given up something that we look back on and say I wish I was still doing (fill in the blank). It could be as simple as exercising regularly or as big as running your own company. Take a moment to think of something you want to do for YOU, start small and set goals and just do it. When things start to feel impossible remember the famous Audrey Hepburn quote, “Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m Possible.'” How true is that? By being a mother you’ve already proven that your are a strong woman capable of whatever you put your mind to, use that strength toward finding what enriches YOU the person.
Yes, you are a mom. Shout it. Love it. Embrace it. But whatever you do, don’t let it define you. Okay, it will define you , it should define part of you, but it shouldn’t limit you. Say to yourself, “Yes I am a mother, but I am also a woman who wants to make a difference in the world. I may not be exactly sure how I am going to do that, but there is not a doubt in my mind that I will.”
Always be grateful for the opportunity you have to raise little humans into adults, being a mother is an amazing gift! But don’t be “just a mom.”